It is so hard to ask! Why does my kid steal stuff?
Kids with Reactive Attachment Disorder often struggle with asking for things and or for help doing things. They have a strong propensity to just take things or get totally frustrated trying to do things without help. Why is this? It is about needing to be self-sufficient. Rad kids have a need to not need others. If your fearful of rejection, fearful of adults, and fearful of criticism- you will not ask. I have been working with my little one for several months on feeling safe asking for things rather than just taking them when she wants. I was always finding hidden food containers and empty wrappers in her room-mostly under her pillow and between the bed and the wall. All my logic was totally useless. Explaining that bugs will come did nothing to help. We got into a “who can hide the chocolate better!” contest-lol. I hid it in my room, and she would find it and hid it in her room. I realized her need to not need was really the issue. I began training her to ask. I would hold a bag of candy and say, “Do you want some?” with a big warm smile. Then I would say “just ask and you shall receive!”. She squirmed a lot but was able to say “some” with her hands hiding her face. I immediately gave her some. We repeated this many times. Then we added more to the sentence. After repeating this ad nauseum, I walked into the kitchen and saw her first none prompted request! Victory!!!!! She is improving daily and steals less and less every day.
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